Have you ever noticed that us moms have a tendency to ‘complain’ about our lives? So many times when I hear moms get asked how they are doing or how their night was. Their answer usually isn’t “Oh, I am doing wonderful!” or ‘We had a great night!” It usually ends up being something like “Oh, you know, I have four kids, how do you think I am doing?” or “Well, I only got 3 hours of sleep so I am exhausted!”. Has anyone ever noticed this? It’s like we can all relate better in the negative. I say let’s change this! So how can you become a positive mom?
How to Become a Positive Mom
I feel like part of motherhood is this unspoken truth between us that we all have crazy lives. We are all doing our best, raising kids, keeping a house, homeschooling, working full time, running a business, whatever it is. We can all relate to each other. But why must we relate on the bad things?Maybe we think our lives are so much harder than others. That we have it worse than everyone else. Who has it worse? The mom of a newborn that wakes 2-3 times at night? The mom who ran between 3 soccer games, made supper and did laundry? That mother with 2 toddlers? The mother with a baseball team following her around? Let’s face it, it’s all hard some times. But together, let’s take these steps to become a positive mom!
Take a Step Back
Why do we dwell on the hard parts? The rough patches? After all, this is the life we’ve chosen right? Or rather, the life God has chosen for us? Please don’t get me wrong…it’s hard to see the good sometimes. Especially right in the thick of things! And I am all about dishing to that best friend (lets face it, we all have that one friend who can totally relate to the time you yelled at your kids too much or let them have ice cream for dinner and won’t judge you!). Or calling Mom when it feels like you are doing everything all wrong. And even locking yourself away for 5 minutes of sanity! Taking a step back may be just what you need to catch our breath and remember your purpose!
Change Focus
Imagine how bright our world would be if we focused more on the reasons why instead of the reasons why not. Look at the good in the midst of the bad. The sweet baby who woke up twice last night, woke up because they wanted to be near you. Instead of feeling frustrated over the toy basket being dumped five minutes after you spent 10 minutes picking it up…look at the beauty of your children playing. Push past resentment when a child makes the house a mess, but be thankful that you created a home for them to feel comfortable in. The next time you feel anxious, anger or frustrated, switch thought in a positive way.
Give Thanks to God
The best way to remain positive and grateful is to list out what you are thankful for. Build time into your morning or evening prayer time to include what you are thankful for. Make a list throughout the day, a physical list you can look back on. Another great way to do this is practice it with your family. During breakfast or at the supper table, go around and have everything list at least one thing they are grateful for. Adding this into your routine is crucial to remain positive.
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Create Positive Habits
Creating positive habits for yourself will not only make you a positive mom, but it will affect your children and husband as well. You can make your home a positive space, a place of joy and happiness to return to each day. And remember to give yourself grace. There are so many different seasons in motherhood. Each one is different and each one is beautiful. Let’s spread the joy by sharing the good things! When the next person asks how your night was, ask them how it could have been any less than amazing! My kids are healthy, happy, alive and I get to be their mom!
+AMDG+
