Lately I have found myself surrounded by a lot of negativity and drama. There is drama in my every day life as a working mother but I can’t help but notice the abundance of drama bubbling up lately. Unfortunately sometimes it is hard to avoid it and even though it doesn’t necessarily involve me, I find myself caught up in it somehow.
My parents divorced when I was 13 and that was probably the first, big, life-changing moment for me. The first time when I was sort of forced to find out who I was, find my personality. It became clear then that I was always going to be the one to be able to step back, forgive and forget. Life is too short to dwell on things that are done, in the past and cannot be changed.
Forgive & Forget
As I grew through my teenage years, went through school, dating, life, there were many, many things that happened that I learned to deal with and move on. I like to make the best of things and I try my best to not compare my life to others. This isn’t always easy and sometimes takes a little time, but in the end it always comes to the same conclusion: forgive and forget. You don’t know what the person next to you is going through!
Lately there has been lots of drama like this swirling around me. Old grudges and history creeping up unexpectedly. Things that have happened ages ago are suddenly in the forefront. Heightened emotions and brash actions. It is exhausting at times and hard to watch. I do what I can to comfort, to lend a listening ear and to be sympathetic. I can understand the feelings behind the actions but other times, I can’t understand how certain issues haven’t passed.
My husband and I have been talking a lot about this lately and I found some great words of wisdom that describe this perfectly:
These words ring so true! And while it isn’t always easy to see or to act on, I feel everyone would be in a much better place if we could live by this. It is easy to forget that everyone has their own story, they have their own issues. There will be days when you feel you have been cheated or that you were dealt a horrible hand or that someone did you wrong. But the important thing to always remember is that this is the hand you were dealt, the life you were chosen to live. God does not give you more than you can handle. you were given this life for a reason. It is up to you to choose how to live it.
God does not give you more than you can handle.
I hope that I am able to help people see this, to understand this and I know that I will need those same people to help remind me of this from time to time. With good people around us and God within us, I think we can all learn to forgive, to forget and to be free!
>>Kristy
